Exciting news!! I have moved My blog to Absbymilena.com :)

Hi Everyone,

Just letting you know I have updated my blog and you can find my blog posts and a lot more at

absbymilena.com

I have some really cool new thing I want to share and I can't wait to hear your feedback

:)

My personal recipe for Clean Turkey burgers

Ok my New years resolution people... This one is for you :)


My personal recipe for Turkey burgers 


What you will need 
Turkey mince
Spinach
Onions
Pepper
Pink Salt
Mushrooms
Zucchini
Coconut oil


How to make it

Step 1 - Finley chop all your vegetables and add it into a bowl
Step 2 - Add your Turkey mince with your chopped vegetables and mix together
Step 3 - Using your hands make little balls with the mixture slightly bigger then a golf ball
Step 4 - In a pan add a tablespoon on Coconut oil and wait for it to heat up
Step 5 - Place the balls in the pan and flatten into a patty
Step 6 - When the edges of the patties start to change colour flip the patties over
Step 7 - Once both sides are golden brown place the patties on a plate and allow to cool
Step 8 - Pack them for your lunch and enjoy :)

Prepping for a bikini competition... Don't put all your eggs in one basket

This has been playing on my mind for a while now and I can speak from experience because I have put myself through a Bikini competition...

I am coming from a very genuine and good place when I explain what I have seen over the years and what I have personally experienced.
I really hate seeing people throw every single thing away for a competition

I have seen so many people ( including myself )

- Give up their job while prepping for a competition,

- Relationships suffer and majority of the time fail due to the very strict schedule and constant random mood swings ect that's involved,

- Businesses suffer due to the owners attention being on prepping and not spent on building their business  

- Racking up huge debts to cover the coaches, training, supplements, bikini ect

- Self esteem and head games that have put people in some dark places while trying to get lean enough

All for a bikini competition that is over and done with in 10minutes.. 

I spent in total $5,000 on my prep and I came second in Ifbb QLD and I didn't even get my plastic trophy on the day. The organisers said it will be posted out to me and I am yet to receive it after numerous attempts chasing them.

Don't get me wrong, I respect the sport and I respect everyone that competes and preps because it is so crazy hard and it takes a very strong person to stick it out and make it on stage.. 

My biggest concern is that people are putting all their eggs in one basket and walking away after comp having to pick up the pieces..

What are you thankful for??

Ok... So before everyone starts thinking about their new years resolutions, I want you to reflected on the past and appreciate the present in order to move on in the future reminding yourself of life's lessons

I want you to get a pen and paper and write down 10 things you are thankful for this last year :)


Here is my top 10 things I am thankful for this past year

Im thankful for...

1. Stepping out of my comfort zone and moving back to Sydney to chase my career even though I didn't want to move back and loved my life on the Gold Coast. I took a risk and it paid off  

2. Working for ATP Science. When I first started with Atp I was shitting myself thinking I was way over my head but I worked my bum off and now it comes naturally and I am really loving every moment and  I am learning so much

3.  Spending a lot of time with my family and watching my nephews and niece grow up

4. My incredible boyfriend, I never thought I would ever find someone after being single for two years. I was in a abusive relationship and was shut off from relationships. I had to work hard on myself to trust again and I'm glad I did because he is incredible

5. Working with my stores to conduct women's weight loss seminars across Sydney

6. My training sessions, I love training hard and I have been trying things outside of the gym and I am really loving different types of training

7. Letting go of anything negative and forgiving but not forgetting

8. I have been saving some good coin and I have my 3 year plan to have my deposit for a loft apartment

9.  For going on a family holiday, I am exactly like my dad and I am a workaholic. I only got my passport the week before I left and I didn't even care I was going. I am glad I went and it has shown me to switch off

10. I am thankful for my heart, soul, pure intentions and passion for helping people and animals. I consider myself to be a very genuine and non selfish or judgemental person and if I had a daughter like myself I would be proud. 

Mental prison

Proof that I don't just have a 6 pack all year round.. 

The thing is...  

We put ourselves in a mental prison over our outside shell thats only purpose is to protect our spirit, 

Why? 

Why do we punish ourselves so harshly and put our happiness in solitary confinement? 

It's time we break out of our mental prison and give ourselves freedom to experience life and to be free.. 

Your heart and your spirit is the only thing that matters so if you want to judge something then judge that..

Who do you think you are?

I was listening to the latest podcast from Atp Science called "secret mens business" and they made some really awesome points and mentioned qualities that their fathers told them that made you a man.

It really got me thinking and I came up with my own check list on things to ask yourself to self analyse on what type of person you are on the inside...


"You can have a good body but if you have a ugly heart... you are ugly."


Here are my list questions to ask yourself to determine what type of person you are


Men & Women  


Men - How well to do you treat the women in your life? Eg Mum, Gf, Sister ect 

Ask yourself if you had a daughter and someone treated them the way you treated a women, would you be happy?


Men & Women - How well can you control your temper? 

Are you quick to raise your voice, show aggression, become very nasty and manipulative

or are you

Calm, logical, patient and can walk away without holding a grudge and just let it go


Men & Women - If your partner or ex partner was to describe you and how you treated them throughout your relationship, what kind of things would they say about you? 

list 5 good points and 5 bad points they would say


Men & Women - Your social media. Pretend you are a complete stranger and stalk your own Facebook page. What would you say about that person ( aka You ) judging only by your posts and pictures on your Facebook page 


Men & Women - If your best friend or partner just scored an awesome opportunity or won the lotto ect and they started to get a lot attention

Could you genuinely be happy for them and appreciate their success or would you get jealous and start to distance yourself from them?


Men & Women -  How well do you treat animals?

Are they just something you feed twice a day or do you put in same effort as you would your best friend?


Women -  How quickly would you sleep with a guy? 

Is sex just a what ever thing and it's fun or do you make them wait until you know they have put in the effort and respect


Men & Women - If someone is getting bullied do you 

A) Take sides with the bully because they are intimidating and you don't want the attention on you?
B) Help out the person getting bullied because they are getting attacked?
C) Mind your own business and turn a blind eye? 


Men & Women - Would you go through your partners phone or Facebook or do you respect and trust their privacy? 



Men -  When you take out a girl do you pay, go halves or she is expected to pay?

There are no right or wrong answers to any of these questions I just want people to start to think about what type of person they are on inside and if they met that same person would they want to be friends with them??

Why the F are you training?? is for the "Fitness" "Facebook attention" "Fun" "For the distraction"

Why the F are you training??

 Is for the "Fitness" "Facebook attention" "Fun" "For the distraction"

This question has always made me wonder why people train..

The response I get straight away is I want to lose weight and tone up but when I dig deeper that isn't the case at all..


I'm not your typical personal trainer.. Yeah I could flog you in the gym for a hour and forget about you but that isn't going to do anything if mentally you keep self sabotaging yourself and you are mentally beating yourself up

I want to know what's going on in your head and your mindset because that will paint me a clearer picture as to why you do the things you do and we can work together to break some of the habits


When I have dug deeper here are some of the reasons people turn to the gym

1. They have just gone through a break up or divorce and they have lost their confidence

2. They used to be overweight when they were younger

3. They like the Facebook attention and the attention from boys / girls

4. They have cellulite and they can't get rid of their troubled spots

5. The have low self esteem and confidence and they think getting fit or skinny will solve their problems.

6. They love food way too much.. Haha

As you grow and learn to love yourself your reason for training will change... I used to train for the above reasons at different stages of my life but now my reason are completely different


5 reason why I train 

1. After being in a flipped car I have no option but to keep training and building muscle to support my back other wise it gets very painful and I get constant head aches and nerve pain

2. Being a personal trainer / life coach I need to set an example so I can teach my clients and speak from experience

3. I genuinely love training hard and eating clean... My mind, body and soul thanks me so much for giving it nothing but the best

4. I want feel comfortable in clothes and when I'm with my partner

5. I have a few medical conditions and I have to eat clean and train to keep ontop of it


 
So ask yourself... Why am I training?